It was several years ago, but mom Penny Rogers still remembers that fateful day at the doctor's office where she took her young son to get him help for his tantrums and lack of sleep.
Rogers was stressed as all get-out, had only slept an hour and a half the night before, and was trying to calm her son's nerves in the middle of yet another meltdown. After waiting for two hours, the doctor came in only to give her the worst kind of earful.
In a Love What Matters post, Rogers wrote, "You looked me dead in the eye as you boldly proclaimed that my child was unfixable. I vividly remember the moment you told me to find a group home for him immediately before I got attached. What? Who tells a mom to do something before they get attached to their child?"
The appointment became a blur, but she heard the word "autism." And it soon became clear that this doctor had already given up on her child.
But she--and her family--didn't.
"We stopped listening to doctors who were more interested in telling us how awful our situation was and turned to others who were interested in helping," she wrote. "We knew his needs. We researched ways to help him both conventionally and unconventionally. We started caring less about what other people thought and more about what helped our child."
And the payoff was tremendous.
The child who was once called "unfixable" just graduated on time from high school. He's also on his way to college. And he's looking forward to possibly living independently in five years.
Naturally, Rogers has something to say to this doctor now.
"I am grateful that you felt it was your job to make me aware of how “unfixable” my child was as well as what you deemed the correct course of action," she wrote. "Eventually, I would accept the challenge to prove you wrong. Challenge accepted and accomplished."
We couldn't have said it better ourselves!