Lily & Sparrow
In Simple Grace's current issue, author, speaker and IF:Gathering founder Jennie Allen reflects on her journey from perfectionism to joy. Here, she shares the faith-filled revelation that keeps everything in perspective:
Like most women, Jennie often feels the desire and pressure to do everything perfectly and tends to take on too much. But that need to be flawless has taught her a powerful lesson.
“Yesterday I got an email that I’d completely forgotten my fourth child’s science project,” she says with a sigh. “He’s young enough that it’s my responsibility, but between keeping up with work, friends, my other kids and my marriage, it just fell off my radar. So I had to apologize to the school and to my son, and for a second it made me feel like I’d failed.”
But Jennie insists that feeling of inadequacy is actually a blessing. “We often believe that we’re not enough—in fact, almost all the women I meet believe that so deeply about themselves,” she says. “I felt that way too until I accepted that I actually wasn’t adequate! God provides what I need. It’s not in our own strength or power that we will experience the most of God…it’s through our weaknesses, our inadequacies.”
Jennie admits that telling women that they aren’t enough is the opposite of most self-esteem messages, but she believes accepting that fact is the beginning of freedom. “You realize, ‘Hey, I don’t have to work so hard! I can relax and let God take over.’”
Read more of Jennie's relatable story in the current issue of Simple Grace, on sale now, and in her wonderful new book, Nothing to Prove. For more inspirational stories like this, follow us on Facebook and Twitter.