Curious kids ask all kinds of questions, so mom-of-two Lori Plyler wasn't surprised when her 4-year-old son, Liam, finally posed the question she had been expecting for years. But she could never have predicted how the important conversation would go.
See, Plyler has spastic hemiplegia, a form of cerebral palsy that renders her right arm weak and immobile and also affects her speech. When her first-born was really young, she faced certain unique physical challenges--changing diapers with one hand, for instance--but she always wondered when she'd face the emotional challenge of having to explain her body's differences to her son.
Turns out, the conversation went better than she ever imagined, as Plyler describes in a powerful and personal blog post on The Mighty.
"We were reading his bedtime story, and he asked why my hand was the way it is. I said, 'It's just the way I was born. Everyone has differences; you have brown eyes, and I have blue. Differences make us interesting and unique,'" Plyler wrote.
But that wasn't enough; her son wanted more information, and he had more questions.
"He sat there holding my hand and asked, 'Can we go to the doctor to see if they could get your fingers to move like mine?' I was hit with a ball of emotions," she described. "It took everything I had to say, 'Sweetie, there’s nothing anyone can do to fix me. I am who I am, and that’s OK.'"
His final reply is what really stole her heart: Liam turned to her and said, "You are my mommy, and I love you the way you are.”
It isn't every day that children pick up such life-altering lessons so early, so we're glad this mom got to have a meaningful conversation with her kind-hearted son at such a young age.
"I knew from that day on, it didn’t matter what others thought of me. All that matters is I’m Mommy. Our conversation healed scars left from my childhood, scars of low self-esteem and thoughts of worthlessness... As parents, we need to teach our children how to be empathetic and have respect for others," Plyler wrote.
We agree, and we hope she's feeling very proud!
via The Mighty